Tracy Rydzy over at Living With Chronic Pain has a GREAT blog post today, and I just have to share it with y’all! What NOT to Say to Someone in Chronic Pain lists 8 things that are not only not helpful, but actually can be harmful to a person living with chronic pain.
I’ve had people say each of these things. The people were friends, were well-meaning, and intended to offer support and kindness, but to the contrary they ended up making me feel worse about myself, to doubt God, and often to end up in more pain from the tension sparked by the remarks.
So, please, my friends, take a hint from Tracy! Please, stow those comments (and others like them) in your “Do Not Say” file!!
Toni Bernhard at Psychology Today‘s Blog Turning Straw Into Gold listed a bunch of things TO say in her post: What Those With Chronic Pain or Illness DO Want to Hear.
Positive things are so much better than negative things – don’t you think?
- Does Rheumatoid Arthritis Pain Really Hurt That Much? (rawarrior.com)
- Do Rheumatoid Arthritis Patients Have a Low Pain Threshold? (rawarrior.com)
- Chronic Pain and Fibromyalgia: What’s Normal, What’s Not(health.com)
- Mayo Clinic: Fibromyalgia(mayoclinic.com/health)
- Chronic Pain, @Facebook Games and @EA’s Pet Society #savepetsociety (ohmyachesandpains.info)
- Can online chat rooms and ‘cyberhugs’ help chronic pain sufferers cope? (eurekalert.org)